Breakups Suck: Here's How to Get Over Them

Breakups suck. It doesn't matter whether you were the dumper or the dumpee. A breakup is a breakup and they hurt like hell, even if it was mutal. As a teenage girl who's gone through multiple breakups, I can confirm this is true. I can also tell you that while they hurt, it can also bring you a lot of joy. Breakups is a normal part of life and each breakup means you're one step closer to being with the person you were meant to be with.

Okay, that was incredibly sappy but I still believe it's true. I am a huge believer of fate and if breaking up with the wrong guys leads me to the right one, so be it. Feeling hurt for a week after each breakup is worth a lifetime of happiness when I do find the right guy. Now that being said, it does suck and hurt a lot when you go through a breakup. There's the breakup itself, the week after, watching your ex move on, and then moving on yourself. They all hurt but that first week after a breakup sucks and being a girl who's been broken up with over and over again, I have some tips on how to get over a breakup faster.

1. Turn it Off- When a breakup just happens and you are now away from your ex, TURN YOUR PHONE OFF! Turning your phone off stops you from trying to get back with them, saying things you really don't want to, or going on a post-breakup rampage and complaining to your friends. Just turn it off (this is especially helpful if you went through a breakup by text message like I did).

2.Go ahead and vent- After you no longer feel like you want to kill your ex and then cry for hours, go ahead and turn your phone back on and call someone close to you. Call your mom, friends, sibling, etc. Venting to them can make you feel better (and they can also make you laugh really hard).

3. Ice Cream and Movie Therapy- If you're still hurting, it's time for some much needed post-breakup netflix and ice cream time. Go grab your favorite after breakup ice cream (mine is Ben and Jerry's Half-Baked) and turn on Netflix and watch some silly shows. I like to watch silly disney movies because they take me back to a time when I thought boys were gross and disney characters were my best friends.

4. Read Some Amazing Books- I adore a good book when I'm dealing with a bad break-up. I love a good dystopian novel (Hunger Games is my go to). Usually I stick to action novels or mysteries but sometimes even a good romance novel with a super sappy ending cheers me up. Reading just helps people escape.

5. Time to look fabulous- After having that netflix and ice cream time, I like to do something that helps me feel a lot better: changing my hair. After each breakup, I always dye my hair a new color. Before my breakup, I had strawberry blonde hair. After the breakup, I now have violet hair that I adore. It just makes me feel pretty, new, and ready for anything. If you're not ready for such a huge change, buy a new outfit, wear a new color of lipgloss, buy a new necklace, or anything else. Do something that makes you feel beautiful and ready for the next person who comes along.

6. Letting go- Now that you're feeling and looking great, it's time for the hard part: letting the romance go. Go through your phone and delete any overly romantic pictures of you two. DO NOT delete every single picture of your ex if you two are still in each other's life as friends. My most recent ex has requested that we go back to being best friends and I've agreed so I kept pictures of him that I had before we were together. If you're still in their life, it's best to not get rid of everything. Besides pictures, try to put anything they gave you away (don't get rid of it) and DO NOT ask them to give you back items you gave to them when you were together. That's just catty.

6. Enjoy the single life- Being single is awesome. You don't need to date someone to be happy. Spend your Friday nights watching tv and eating pizza. I loved being with my last boyfriend but I love being single right now. I get to focus on my blog, my writing career, my upcoming move to L.A., and I'm not spending all my time on my phone texting him. The single life is pretty nice. I can casually date again (and I might since I was asked out recently) and I'll get to find the right guy after I'm out in New York and I've started working on Broadway as a director (big dreams, huh?). Just enjoy being free and flirt up a storm if you want to. Just be you.

So there you go. I hope those tips help you out if you're going through a breakup because they really helped me. I got over my relationship of two months in about five days so you guys can to. You're all beautiful and I hope you'll find the person you're meant to be with really soon. Well that's it for now. I'm going to go eat some pizza and binge watch the Originals now while looking like a hobo (living that single life!).

-Dani

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